Taming your toddlers behaviour (Toddler Secrets Revealed Book 1)
When you are unhappy with your toddler's behavior, make it clear that it is the behavior, not the child, that you don't like. So say "hitting is unacceptable" or "hitting is bad" but not "you are bad". No child likes being always told he is bad or naughty - if that is all he's told, he will believe that to be the case and if that is all anyone expects of him, eventually, that is all anyone will see - you child will act out the script you give him.
Give your child alternatives, so for example, say "I don't like you speaking rudely like that. I like it when you are polite and say please". Rather than speaking about good and bad, consider speaking to your child about choices and explain that the choices they make can be helpful or not helpful for them depending on the consequences. If they make an unhelpful choice, ask them what alternative choice they could have made help them out if they can't come up with one. Teaching that everyone has choice and choices have consequences is helpful to children.
Learning that they can change the choices they make is invaluable later in life. Not everything that happens in your family is by consensus. You are the parent and you know what is best for your family. But how you best get that across to your child will depend on his nature.
For the some children, you can explain what you expect and show him you respect his thoughts about the issue, but that doesn't mean that you have to go along with him if it's not right for the family as a whole. For other children, a more direct approach works best.
You have to know your child. However, you can always give him an impression of control, eg. Your child will appreciate having some say.
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It is ok for you to decide what toddler behavior is non-negotiable for you and your family, such as learning to be respectful of others. It is a fruitless exercise getting into an argument or fight with your toddler. You are the adult and you have to resist. Not only that, your child will forget about any fight very quickly whereas you are more likely to have feelings that linger - which is a lose-lose situation for you. When your child says "I hate you" as a toddler will do, either ignore it completely or answer as my sister does, calmly and casually, "that's a shame.
I still love you.
If your toddler continues, just ignore it completely. This is particularly true for the child who loves a reaction, so you need to avoid giving a reaction for any behavior you don't want to see. If what your child is doing leaves you with an emotional charge, take some time alone and consider what may be triggering that charge - emotional triggers oftentimes are something from the past, even childhood.
Recognizing that is important so you child doesn't bear the burden of your past. Positive reinforcement is the best form of child and toddler behavior management.
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Give lots of positive attention for behaviors you want to see. We are so good at criticising but less good at giving positive feedback. Your child needs positive feedback. So, when he is being "good", tell him, make a fuss about how good he is and how much it pleases you. By definition, "good" is anything that is not unacceptable, so be generous with your praise.
Give positive reinforcement for all toddler behavior that is not unacceptable - "good boy for tidying up", "good boy for coming when I called you", "good boy for helping your sister" - be specific about what behavior you are talking about, don't just say "good boy". Praise positively reinforce the behavior you want in a positive way, not in a double negative way. So say "good boy for talking quietly" not "good boy for not shouting". I was in the supermarket the other day and heard a mother telling her little girl, "that was very good listening".
Perfect positive reinforcement.
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Even better, give reinforcement for your child just being himself - so he knows he doesn't to earn love, it's there for him regardless. For example,congratulate your child on being such fun and for having such great ideas. You might even want to consider using a reward chart to modify toddler behavior - read more. Ignoring, or more correctly failing to give reinforcement, works for behaviors you don't want like tantrums and breath holding attacks.
Your child's motivation is to get attention and sometimes he doesn't care how - if he doesn't get attention, he will try something else. Sometimes ignoring is as simple as avoiding eye contact with your toddler. You have to be consistent, though. If your child thinks that there is a possibility of attention, because he got some last time, he'll keep trying for a while. That is intermittent reinforcement and it is very strong, so make your reinforcement work for you not against.
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As the founder of the Child Development Institute of the Redwoods, she coaches parents and creates online courses in compassionate discipline techniques and Montessori education. Aubrey lives with her husband and two children in San Francisco, CA. Table of Contents Foreword vi. See All Customer Reviews. Shop Books. Add to Wishlist. USD